The Season of Choosing You

The Season of Choosing You. Image Source: Annie Spratt Unsplash.

There comes a moment in your life…or a season…when the universe places a mirror in your hands and says:“It’s time to choose you.”

It sounds simple, doesn’t it? But choosing yourself isn’t always the loud, glamorous version we imagine. Most of the time, it’s quiet. It’s subtle...And sometimes even uncomfortable.

Because the truth is, even though many of us might think we’re choosing ourselves… our patterns often tell a different story (eek, I know it feels so uncomfortable to look at 👀).

But every time we reach for someone else’s validation instead of our own peace, we abandon ourselves.

Every time we water dead plants…relationships, friendships, jobs that expired long ago…we are suppressing our needs. Every time we try to breathe life into something we know is no longer ours to carry, we betray our own growth.

By the way…I’m also working on this too. And I’ve realised that choosing yourself isn’t about mastering a skill, it’s a lifelong practice, a return to self we repeat over and over again.

Here are some of the ways we can start choosing ourselves intentionally:

1. Prioritise Peace Over Validation

Not everyone will understand you, your path, or your choices…and that’s okay. You weren’t designed to fit into every room or be accepted by every soul. Your peace is sacred. Your journey is personal. Keep showing up for yourself, even when others don’t clap. You are not for everyone…and that is a gift, not a flaw.

2. Stop Nurturing What Has Expired

Choosing yourself often means noticing where your energy has been leaking. Old friendships. Unfulfilling jobs. Situations that shrink you. You don’t have to make drastic cuts overnight. Sometimes choosing yourself looks like slowly taking a step back, reducing your time, or lovingly detaching.

And sometimes? It means walking away entirely.

3. Choose Growth, Even When It’s Lonely

Growth requires space, discomfort and evolution. Staying where you’ve outgrown is like trying to squeeze your foot into an old shoe…it’s tight, painful and stops you from moving forward.

Let yourself rise. Let yourself outgrow.

It’s better to be alone than in the wrong company.

4. Choose Yourself in the Little Moments

Choosing yourself isn’t always a big spiritual awakening. Sometimes it’s a small act of self-respect in the middle of a chaotic day.

A healthy meal. A walk. Washing your hair. Putting on the outfit that makes you feel happy. Showing up for your morning routine.

These little rituals send a message to your subconscious mind: I matter. I am worth the effort. I am worth the time.

And what you believe internally becomes the energy you attract externally.

5. Choose Yourself Even If You’re Misunderstood

There will be moments where choosing you means others won’t understand. They may label you. Project onto you. Create stories about you.

Let them.

Your job is not to explain yourself into acceptance…it’s to stay aligned.

It’s to choose peace over performance.Your people will rise to meet your growth.

6. Choosing You Is Showing Up Online

Post the content. Share your voice. Take up space.

Whether people clap or scroll, they’re still watching. Your job is to show up for your dreams, not for their approval.

As I always say…You never know who your courage is inspiring.

7. Choose the Right Tables

Sit at tables where:

• You don’t have to shrink yourself

• You don’t walk on eggshells

• You don’t carry conversations alone

• You are seen, valued and invited in

The right company won’t fear your light…they’ll reflect it back.

8. Choose Where Your Energy Goes

Most of us have only a few hours a day after work. You can pour it into gossip, draining friendships, or empty social interactions…

Or you can pour it into your growth, your dreams, your healing and your becoming.

Choosing you means investing your time with intention…both online and in person.

It all adds up.

9. Choose Yourself With Your Voice

Let go of the people who preferred you small, silent, or easy to overlook.

Your voice is part of your power.

Your boundaries are part of your healing.

Your truth is part of your purpose.

Not everyone will celebrate your growth…But rise anyway.

These are the things I’m currently working on in my own life. Choosing myself hasn’t always been easy. Sometimes it has meant walking away, being alone, protecting my energy, or being painted as the villain in someone else’s story.

But it's something I've learnt to make peace with…because choosing yourself is an act of self-love, not self-centeredness. It’s creating a life where your peace, your growth and your boundaries matter.

Self-love is not always a pretty outfit or a glowing morning routine (they may be a part of it…for sure 💖).

Sometimes it’s letting go. Sometimes it’s choosing silence. Sometimes it’s choosing distance. And sometimes…it’s choosing yourself again and again.

I’d love to hear how you are choosing yourself this season.

Share your journey with me in the comments. 💛 With Love,

Sonia xx

Disclaimer

Everything shared in this post comes from a place of guidance, reflection, and lived experience. Please remember that your healing journey is uniquely your own. These words are not meant to replace professional mental health or medical support, but to offer gentle wisdom and encouragement along the way. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and always honour what feels true for you.